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Keeping Anger Under Control
Keeping Anger Under Control over 2,000 years ago, the Greek philosopher Aristotle used the term “catharsis” to describe the “purging” or release of emotional tension that results from viewing a tragic play or drama.
After one’s tension is released, a sense of psychological refreshment would emerge. Early in the last century, the Austrian neurologist Sigmund Freud promoted a similar view.
He claimed if people bottled up or repressed their negative emotions, they would later resurface as a psychological disorder, such as hysteria.
Thus, Freud maintained you should express anger rather than restrain it.
In more recent years, researchers who tested the catharsis theory throughout the ’70s and ’80’s found little or no support to back it up.
These findings led psychologist Carol Tavris to write: “It is time to put a bullet, once and for all, through [the] heart of the catharsis hypothesis.
The belief that observing violence (or ‘ventilating it’) gets rid of hostilities has virtually never been supported by research.”
Another psychologist, Gary Hankins, said: “Research shows that ‘letting out’ all of your anger in a cathartic manner often leaves you feeling more uptight, not less.”
Mental-health experts may never agree on catharsis.
However, many people have benefited from another source of wisdom, the Bible. “Let Anger Alone”
The Bible psalmist David beautifully expressed the idea of controlling your anger.
He said: “Let anger alone and leave rage; do not show yourself heated up only to do evil.” (Psalm 37:8)
The way to avoid saying or doing something that you may later regret is to keep from getting “heated”.
Of course, that is much easier said than done. But it can be done! Let’s consider three ways that you can get your anger under control.
Reduce Anger’s Intensity To reduce anger, slow down and relax. Try to avoid saying the first thing that comes to mind.
If you feel yourself getting overly excited and feel you are in danger of losing control of your emotions, apply the Bible’s counsel: “The beginning of contention is as one letting out waters; so before the quarrel has burst forth, take your leave.”—Proverbs 17:14.
That helped a man named Jack to gain mastery over his violent temper. Jack’s father was given to bouts of drunkenness and anger.
While growing up, Jack developed a violent personality as well. He says: “When I became angry, I would feel as if I was on fire.
“Where there is no wood the fire goes out.” Afterward, Jack could finally gain mastery over his anger.
Learn to Relax “A calm heart is the life of the fleshly organism.” (Proverbs 14:30) Applying this basic Bible truth can improve one’s emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
Start by learning simple relaxation methods, which help to reduce feelings of anger. The following techniques have proved effective in combating stress-related anger:
- Breathing deeply, which is one of the best—and fastest—ways to reduce the intensity of your anger.
- While breathing deeply, repeating a word or phrase that is calming to you, such as “relax,” “let it go,” or “take it easy.”
- Immersing yourself in something you enjoy —perhaps reading, listening to music, gardening, or some other type of activity you find relaxing.
- Getting regular exercise and eating a healthful diet. Adjust Your Expectations You may not avoid the people or the things that act as anger triggers, but you can learn to control your reactions to them.
- This involves changing the way you think. People with very high expectations have greater problems with anger.
Because when someone or something does not measure up to their high standards, disappointment and anger quickly follow.
To combat this perfectionist mentality, it is good to keep in mind that “there is not a righteous man, not even one . . . All men have deflected, all of them.”
(Romans 3:10, 12) Therefore, we set ourselves up for a sense of failure if we think that we or anyone else can be perfect. We are wise not to expect too much of ourselves or others.